You. And. Me. One Family.

The following poem (of sorts, I’m not good at rules) was inspired by a Facebook group called Stand-up with a Selfie that has people take selfies with their hand over their mouth in what has come to be the calling card of sorts for the Idaho, Add the 4 Words campaign calling the Idaho legislature that will not give us a hearing to add sexual orientation and gender identity to the Idaho Civil Rights Act.  Its not calling for special rights, just basic human rights.  And they won’t even hear it.

So I watch these picture scroll of so many people, standing in mute testimony to Add the Words.  And I find these words coming to me, and I share them here with you (one last bit, each picture has with it the words – Its not about me, but it is):

Its not about me, but it is


I’m not without predisposition;

My comfort zone and my people-like-me-ness.

I’m not without standards;

My desires to draw lines and my tribal nature.

I’m not without fears;

My drive to demonize and my closed ears to tears.

I’m not without brokenness, finite love, and limited grace.

But it’s not about me.

But it is.


I do not wish to be offensive

Or even defensive.

I do not wish to rock the boat, but…

it’s not about me.

But it is.


If we are all one human family.

A great big tree of unity and diversity.

I have to realize that I am no more true to it than you are it.

And my fears and tears and standards  and walls and…

Well… well , its not about me.  And, it’s not about you.

But it is.


It’s about me and you, different and the same.

Despite all the fears and the tears,

The walls I built, and the otherness you bear.

You and me, we are vitality.

A spark of life that desires to be free.

And it should be.


Free to be you.

Free to be me.

Free to be alive and thrive and not hide.

It’s not about you.

And it’s not about me.

But it is.

One human family.



I’m not without my predispositions.

But it’s not about me.

And they aren’t me.

And I can be free of me, so

You can be free of me, so

We can free, You AND Me.

Its not about me… but it is.

About Andrew Kukla

I am the proud father of four wonderful children, loving husband to Caroline, brother to three mostly wonderful sisters, and son of two parents that gifted me with a foundation of love and freedom. I also am a Presbyterian pastor and former philosophy major with a love of too many words (written with many grammatical errors and parenthetic thoughts), Soren Kierkegaard, and reflections on living a life of discipleship that is open to all the challenges, ups and downs, brokenness and grace, of a chaotic and wonderful life founded upon the love of God for all of creation.

Posted on March 15, 2014, in lgbt rights, Uncategorized and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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